If you and your spouse are considering divorce, there are many things that you should consider beforehand. This will ensure that you are going into the process with the right expectations and the right mindset. You should also be sure that you find a divorce lawyer, like one at McKone & Unruh, who can guarantee that the outcome of the agreements of the divorce are fair to you. Here are four things that you should understand about getting divorced:
- There is no Winner: When it comes to getting divorced, there is no winner. This is because, in most cases, nobody on either end gets exactly what they want. Getting divorced is complicated and can involve sorting out a number of things, such as custody, separation of assets, and more. You will find that the arrangements are typically fair, but not always exactly what you wanted. So definitely don't expect to win or expect your divorce lawyer to get you exactly what you want, only what is fair.
- Life Changes Should Wait: Any life changes that you are thinking about making while going through the process of a divorce needs to be thought through, and even discussed with your lawyer, before you follow through on it. For example, if you are thinking about moving out of state, you are probably going to have to wait. Your lawyer will advise you when the best time to do this would be, which is typically after the divorce agreements have been finalized. You also shouldn't sell any assets, especially the family home during this time until a decision is made about it between your lawyer and your spouse's lawyer and the judge if you are taking the case to court.
- It's Best to Avoid Court: If you can, you should try and come to a settlement agreement in mediation. Taking the case to court is messy and takes much longer to get everything finalized. On top of this, a judge will be making the final decisions, not you or your spouse, so it's more likely that the outcome won't be what you want it to be.
- Inventory is Important: If there is going to be arguments over things, such as furniture, artwork, and other assets that are in the home, you should be sure to take inventory of everything. Take pictures and mark the date that the photo was taken. This is important in case your spouse decides to hide it from you.
When you understand these four things about getting divorced, you can be sure that the outcome is more likely to be where you want it to be and you don't go into the process with the wrong expectations.